Wednesday, 31 October 2018

How To Avoid the Friend Zone - Don't Make These 4 Huge Mistakes!

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How often have you spent weeks, or even months talking to that particular girl you like, then working up the courage to finally ask her out, only to hear those dreadful words:

"Oh, you're so sweet, but I don't really see you in that way. I only like you as a friend... "
When you hear that, it's as if she has reached deep inside of your chest and ripped out your heart!
Hurts, doesn't it?
Here are the biggest mistakes that men make and that you should avoid doing:
1 - They never tell the girls their true intentions!
This is the most common reason why guys eventually get friend zoned.
They like the girl; they want to go on a date with her, have fun, sleep with her, and eventually start a relationship. But they're so afraid of rejection that they always skirt around the issue, never clearly stating what they want and letting the girl know that they actually like her romantically!
You must understand that rejection is a part of life and that no matter what you do - not everyone's going to like you.
That's why it's always best to let the girl know that you're interested in her romantically, and that you'd like to go on a date with her.
If she says yes - great! If she says no - at least you know where you stand with her, and you can move on, saving yourself a lot of time!
2 - They treat her like a princess!
If you never disagree with the girl, never express your own opinion, always feign interest in the topics that she brings up, even if they don't interest you - the girl will notice this and won't respect you.
If you're constantly afraid of offending the girl or making her angry, always "walking on eggshells" so to speak - she'll see that you are a spineless guy and lose all attraction towards you.
That's exactly why "Bad Boys" get to have all the fun, while "Nice Guys" are left behind in the dust.
Bad Boys don't fear rejection, aren't afraid of offending people, of living life, of judgment from others. They don't give a rat's behind about what anyone thinks of them and they don't filter their thoughts when they speak - they tell it like it is.
That is incredibly attractive to the vast majority of women, and exactly the reason why most girls fall for these so-called "rebels".
3 - They constantly doubt themselves!
Self-doubt is one of the most unattractive qualities that a man can possess.
If you can't make decisions, question your every move, hesitate when talking to the girl, touching her, leading her, and other similar things - you're not going to get anywhere!
Women don't like guys who are wracked with insecurities and self-esteem issues. It's best that you learn how to get those things handled!
4 - They bore women half to death!
This is another huge mistake that most men make.
When talking to girls, they start asking all the boring, and uninspired questions like "Where are you from?", "What do you do?", "Where did you study?", and so on and so forth.
Every girl has heard these questions a hundred times! You're there to flirt, have a fun, interesting, and exciting conversation with her - and not to conduct an interview!
Refrain from asking the things that a thousand other guys have asked her - and learn some much-needed social skills that spice up a conversation. Skills like storytelling, joke telling, teasing, flirting, spiking emotions, etc.
Give her a reason to want to go on a date with you! Don't bore her to death and show that you're both going to have a fun time if she accepts your invitation!
If you follow this advice and always make your intentions clear, you'll never land in the friend zone!
At worst, you'll get rejected and know where you stand with her. Then you can quickly move on to another girl and stop wasting time!
Good luck!

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how my wife treated me in my marriage(episode 1)

MADAM BOLA: () omo Ibo! Omo Ibo!!! Open door o! Day don break! Which young person dey stay for bed until this time when him mates don all dey ready for work.
for night you no go sleep, na so you go dey for phone dey talk to man!

ADAKU: good morning, ma.

MADAM BOLA: ehn! I wan come tell you say rent dey go up this month by twenty thousand naira o!

ADAKU: why? There has been no renovations or anything done to the house to warrant such increase?

MADAM BOLA: na your mama you dey ask why? Na lack of respect go kill you! No home training at all!!!
See as she keep mouth dey ask me why! Anyway, if you no like am, pack your things and go back to Igbo land.
Lagos no be lazy man land. No be like your place wen una no dey pay rent. I don talk finish. No talk say I no tell you o!

(Adaku went back inside and shut her door. After a while, one of the tenants called Bose knocked on her door…)

ADAKU (opens the door) morning, Bose

BOSE: na vex say I dey disturb, abeg help me charge my phone for your room. I no get fuel to put my generator on. Abeg

ADAKU: sure! Come in and plug it in. Ehn! Bose, did you hear of the rent increase?

BOSE: which increase?

ADAKU: landlady told me this morning that rent has increased by twenty thousand naira.

BOSE: ah! She no tell me anything like that o! She only say a new tenant will be moving in from next week. That’s all.

ADAKU: okay.

(Bose left and Adaku went to madam Bola’s house)

ADAKU () anyone home?

MADAM BOLA: wetin you want?

ADAKU: sorry to disturb, but why was my rent increased but everyone else’s stayed the same?

MADAM BOLA: oh! You come my house come ask me why again??? You no dey shame? All the money wen you dey get for olosho job, wetin you dey take am dey do! Leave my house before I call my dog!

ADAKU: I’ll leave but just so you know, I am not paying a kobo more than what I have always paid. Bye! (Walks out)

MADAM BOLA: na for that house them go find your decomposing body if you no pay rent. Shebi na me and you for this yard. You go see!
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FUNMI: good morning, sir.

MR OSAI: morning, Funmi. You don’t look too happy; what’s the matter?

FUNMI:(breaks down in tears????)

MR OSAI: oh dear! What’s the matter? Come on! Stop crying and talk to me. What happened? How is Ebuka?

FUNMI: I’m in trouble??

MR OSAI: what trouble? If you calm down and tell me, I might be able to help. I mean you are my staff i could use the company’s money to solve the problem and then gradually take it back from your wages.
Did you make any mistakes?
Is money missing?
Did you overpay a client?

FUNMI: nooo????? my husband found out I was sleeping with you.

MR OSAI: but that happened when we were both unmarried!
Do you know all the women he slept with before meeting you? Come on! This shouldn’t be an issue!

FUNMI: that’s the problem! He didn’t even let me explain. I don’t know what he was told and who told him.
Since then, home has been hell! He goes out and comes back drunk and totally off his face. Calls me all manner of names. I never thought my past could find its way to my present and mess it up this way!

MR OSAI: but you and I had a secret relationship because we were in the same company.
No one knew about it except of course your friend…. And I take the blame because you kicked against that but I insisted on having sex with you in my office. So how could he have known!
Does your friend have his phone number?

FUNMI: no..well, yes. I recently gave it to her because I wanted her to give him the shoes he bought me from Italy, when I was in Lagos. I don’t think she saved it.
And I don’t want to believe she would do such a thing to me

MR OSAI: I’m not saying she said it, but you women can be really nasty when you feel your friend is happier than you. You women are always competing with each other, which I think is pathetic!
Listen, go to your husband when he is sober and explain things to him.
Come on! Not like we were having casual sex! We were in a relationship and we were going to get married until our genotypes shattered those plans.
I’m sure your husband had sex with at least one of his exes! Why punish you for it!

FUNMI: I am in bits. This is a home where I am already the black sheep! If his family gets to know, they’d kick me out and my mother warned me not to ever come back home if my marriage crashes, because she was never in support of me marrying an Ibo man??

MR OSAI: would you like me to talk man to man with him?

FUNMI: I don’t know what I want. I can’t even function

MR OSAI: alright! Listen, this is not a big deal at all, but I understand your fears. I’ll give you one week off, fully paid. Try to sort things out with him as amicably as possible, if all fails, I’ll send you to America to start a new life. What nonsense!!!??
I hate to see you like this. And I feel very guilty because I am enjoying my own marriage. Please go home and if you need anything, regardless of what time of the day or night it i

MY WIFE: episode 20 MR OSAI: morning, Funmi. How are you? FUNMI: I’m alright. Good morning MR OSAI: how have you been managing? FUNMI: God has been gracious. I have been receiving help from lots of people. MR OSAI: great to hear. Do you need anything? FUNMI: not at the moment. No. MR OSAI: It’s Saturday today, So I’m only here until 10am. Our daughter has got really nasty cataarh; I told my wife to get her ready so I could quickly come to the office and do a few things before I take them to the hospital, so they must be waiting. Erm, I just wanted to find out if you are willing to take on the role of my personal deputy? FUNMI: wow! Why not! MR OSAI: well, I did put up vacancy for two more roles on our website. If you become my deputy, it means your position will be empty and we need one one more person in our IT department. So you are happy to do it? FUNMI: yes! MR OSAI: great! So it comes with a pay rise, and a few other benefits like entitlement to an all expense paid holiday, health insurance which covers you and one other family member and a car. FUNMI: wow! Are there things I’d need to do? MR OSAI: erm, we will train you for a week and that’s all fully paid. Nothing difficult at all. Just to familiarise you with your new role. FUNMI: okay. Thank you. Did you get the email I sent you? MR OSAI: Oh yea! The CV, right? Is that someone you know? FUNMI: yes. It’s actually the lady I told you about who got me a house and all. MR OSAI: oh! The Amarachi of a girl! Alright, ask her when she is available to start… FUNMI: oh! My God! Thank you!! MR OSAI: you’re welcome, Funmi. Anyway, look after the office. I’m leaving now FUNMI: please send my love to your daughter and wife. I hope she feels better soon. MR OSAI: I will. Thanks. Bye (Mr Osai left and after sometime, a call came through to Funmi’s desk from the receptionist) FUNMI: hello, Funmi here. How can I help? RECEPTIONIST: someone is here to see you FUNMI: what’s the name? RECEPTIONIST: Zain. FUNMI: hmmm! Let him in, please. Thanks (Zain knocked on the door and Funmi opened the door for him) ZAIN: surprise! Surprise!! FUNMI: you didn’t tell me you were coming! ZAIN: I know you threw your card on me just to dismiss me. Well, most guys would find the way you dismissed me quite abrupt, but I find it very attractive actually FUNMI: please take a seat. ZAIN: (sits down) thank you. FUNMI: would you like anything? ZAIN: yes. You. FUNMI: Oh please! ZAIN: I meant everything I said to you at the mall. You see, I’m not asking you to date me straight away, just give me a chance to know you. That’s all I’m asking for. FUNMI: I’m married… ZAIN: well, you don’t look it (stares at her finger ring and gave a facial expression that suggests “so why are your fingers empty?)

FUNMI: why are you staring at my fingers like that? ZAIN: well, I like how neat and short they are. I dislike articial nails on ladies..also, I thought married people wear wedding bands in this part of the world. I might be wrong… FUNMI: I.. I.. ZAIN: It’s alright! You don’t have to lie to me. You are not married. Maybe you were married. Whatever the case, I just want to get to know you. I know I don’t look it with the whole beards and all, but I am actually harmless. FUNMI: do you mind if I ask where you are from? ZAIN: I’m from Delta state. FUNMI: hmmm! Interesting. Do you live there? ZAIN: erm, actually, I and my siblings were all born and raised in the United States. This is my second time of coming to Nigeria since I was born. But I’m trying to put up something here that will always draw me back home. You don’t wanna go too far away from your roots FUNMI: so you can’t even speak your language ZAIN: shush! Keep your voice down! You don’t need to let the world know! FUNMI: hahahaha! I need a microphone in this office so I could loud it. ZAIN: thank goodness you have none. Naughty girl! FUNMI: I’m not a girl! Respect my age! ZAIN: sorry, grandma. Can we go out for lunch? FUNMI: I don’t think that will be possible. I’ve got a few things to do here ZAIN: I’ll hang around and come back whenever you want me to. Why are you working on a Saturday, anyway! FUNMI: I don’t wanna be bored at home. ZAIN: happily married people look forward to the weekend… FUNMI: ??? ZAIN: I don’t mean to open any healing wounds. I’m sorry if I did. But when I saw you in that mall, I saw loneliness, I saw betrayals, I saw love and lost. Your beautiful garments couldn’t hide them. They pierced through it. All I wanted to do is offer you some comforting hugs. I saw a girl who’s been betrayed by the ones she holds dearly to her heart FUNMI: (wipes her tears with her hands) ZAIN: (throws his handkerchief on her) use this. Don’t be ashamed to cry as much as you wish. But never go back to what made you cry. This is my grandma’s everyday advice to us. Just thought you might find it helpful. FUNMI: thank you. If you don’t mind I would love to carry on working now, please.
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Tuesday, 30 October 2018

How to Text a Girl You Just Met - 3 Ways to Get Her Hot for You Via iPhone

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Texting that cute girl you just met can seem like an intimidating process. The good news is, it isn't impossible to get that spark between you going again. But the tough part is: actually taking out your phone and texting her!

While it can be a challenge to seduce women via text, it doesn't have to be. In many ways it can actually be easier. You have words in your favor as well as the leisure of figuring out what you will say next.
Text messages can be a powerful way of garnering her interest and getting her to be attracted to you. Here are 3 steps on how to seduce her through text.
1) Start by getting her attention
Women often get inundated with men sending them texts and emails and phone calls trying to get into bed with her. Imagine her coming in from being out all night, taking her dress off, and getting into bed. What's the first thing she sees? Her cell phone, blowing up with all the messages from guys she has just met. This means you have competition.
So you have to do something to get her attention. Something to make yourself stand out from all the other men texting her.
Start by playing it safe. Depending on how close you got with her during your face to face interaction, before she gave her number to you, you should talk to her about something during that conversation.
Try not to overthink it too much; just leave it open with a simple "Hey, what are you up to, young miss?" and you can add a smiley emoticon if you like. Then you wait for her response. If she's busy she'll let you know or text you back when she has a chance. You can also try a message that shows you were really paying attention and listening to her.
Such as: "Hi Jane, how did your shopping trip go? Did you find something you liked?"
After she responds send her a flirty playful message back, something like, "Oh, nice dress. You can wear that when we go out for drinks." The point is to show you are paying attention, keeping the conversation flirtatious and fun.
2) Short and sweet
You should make sure to make your messages short and to the point. Don't send her huge sappy or needy messages. That will turn her off. Just simple, attention-getting, short and interesting texts.
Be sure to adjust to the style of her writing. If she gives you two or three word responses, you should be replying in kind - not sending her four screens of text in your reply.
3) Make her laugh
If you do nothing else, try to get a few laughs out of her. You would be shocked at how important a sense of humor is for women to be attracted to a guy. If she thinks you're funny, she will be a lot more attracted to her.
Some funny texts to send:
1) "Just came from the bookstore. You won't believe what I just saw. It made me think of you... "
2) "Today I'm about 5% more awesome than I was yesterday. What's your daily level of awesome?"
3) "I just flew by private UFO and saw your twin sister - or was it a clone? Do you know anything about this?"
Try to get creative and think of your own texts as well.


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Monday, 29 October 2018

How To Pick A Date Night Movie You'll Both Enjoy

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So, once again, your and your significant other are getting set for another major chore --- choosing your date night movie. It is unfortunate that such an incredibly unwelcome feeling can come over a couple performing such a mundane task as
picking a movie to watch. After all, wasn't the idea of a date night a way for couples to make sure to spend time with each other in the midst of our "go-go" world? Choosing a movie to watch should be an adventure and not a nuisance.
The problem is that you have to choose a movie that appeals to both of you. Each of you has different tastes, and these tastes are a sense that you've honed over the course of a lifetime. Now, you all of a sudden have to, dare we say, compromise? Well, yes, actually. Compromise is the name of the game, and it's a lot easier than you would think.
First of all, find out if there is a movie genre that appeals to you both. It is always a good place to start because at the very least, each of you has the chance to let the other know exactly what you like. Yes, there will likely be disagreements, but unless you try to see things from the other person's perspective, you are more apt to criticize and make date night turn into "sleep-on-the-couch" night.
Next, try to see what is actually playing at your local theaters. You may find that although you've chosen a genre, the offerings aren't quite what you both find appealing. This is actually not such a bad thing. Since you hashed things out a bit regarding genres, you're at least ready to discuss if there are any other movies you'd be willing to try out. After all, sometimes the adventure of the unknown can be more exciting than the expected.
Finally, what will you're date night entail? Here, perhaps, is the most important part of your discussion. You can talk about the many concessions you have to make about the movie for the evening. You can even go so far as to venture out to an obscure theater to find the right movie. Still, we need to think about the purpose of date night. You both chose a special night to make time for each other. Make date night count by making the experience as impressive as possible. Why not venture out to a dine-in theater? Not only do they offer the latest releases, they also provide special screenings, and they provide a full "dinner and movie" for the ages. Gourmet food, craft beer, and top-notch service are all on the menu while you're watching the movie! It's quite a way to make date night special all over again.
Don't let a date night movie stand in the way of a good time with the one you love. Make date night special all over again.

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A Powerful Way to Build Attraction With A Girl You Have a Crush On

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"Your availability to a woman will contribute to her feelings of attraction" - Carlos Xuma.

It's a natural tendency for us guys to be obsess over a girl we have a crush on.
We hang out with her every day and call her day and night trying hard to create attraction.
But what you probably don't know is that DESPERATELY pursuing a girl or being too available can ruin the attraction you're trying to create.
Yes, when you meet an attractive girl, it becomes hard to NOT think about her. But truth is, when you obsess over a girl or devote 100% of your time and attention to her, you display a very needy and desperate vibe. And if you didn't know by now, this is one of the quickest ways to lose her.
Sure, you'd want to create an attraction. But at the same time, you'd also want to convey to her you have other OPTIONS in life other than pursuing her.
And a great way to do this is to lead a busy and fun lifestyle. (There are two advantages to this, and you're going to discover them in this article.)
A busy and fun lifestyle equals attraction
A busy and fun lifestyle in the sense that, you want to NONVERBALLY communicate to a girl you BUSILY engage in fun and exciting activities other than cling to girls.
This way you stand out from other guys and convey to her you're an attractive guy.
Now, the question is... how would a girl notice you when you're NOT pursuing her? Or more accurately, how would a girl fall for you when you're not giving her the 'time and attention' she needs?
Simple...
... because girls want to have fun.
Girls are extremely and naturally attracted to guys who lead a fun and exciting lifestyle. And a girl will be more attracted to you if she thinks you are fun to be around.
Making yourself unavailable
When you're too available and cling to a girl, she gets the impression that she has got your interest already. And that's when she begins to manipulate you and play hard to get.
But if you're NOT readily available yet you've managed to build rapport with her with your attractive personality, she'll get the impression you're not the kind of guy who clings to girls.
Thus, you become a good catch and irresistible. And she WILL be the one pursuing you.
As dating expert John Alexander has written:
"By not always being available, you will raise your value."
"It's a fundamental part of human psychology that we tend to assign a higher value to things that aren't readily available."
Unlike the lower status guy who's always available and desperately at a girl's beck and call, in the hopes that the girl falls in love with him, you come across as different. Because you're displaying higher value by letting her know that you're not a guy who will cling to her and be at her beck and call.
So how do you separate yourself from other guys and build attraction quickly with the girl you like?
Keep reading.
How to build attraction with a girl
So instead of being readily available in desperate hopes that the girl you have a crush on falls head over heels for you, go out and engage in fun and exciting activities.
For instance:
  • Hang out with your friends and enjoy your favourite activities
  • Enjoy your hobbies - hiking, skydiving, tennis, sports
  • Go cruising in the Caribbean
  • Take cooking or dance lessons
  • Do some volunteer work
  • Etc.
DON'T sit around giving your crush the impression you have nothing better to do. Go out and start doing things.
... you even get interesting things to talk about with a girl
When your life is fun and interesting, not only do you draw girls to you, but you also get tons of things to talk about with a girl.
Understand: Girls are emotional creatures. And they crave emotional conversations. And that means, talking about yourselves and your daily experiences. In other respect, talking about the things you enjoy doing.
So, in addition to talking about your favourite TV shows and celebrities. You can also talk about the interesting and exciting things that happened to you over the week.
Talk about the cool things you saw or did - the skydiving you performed and how exciting and fun that was. You then ask her if she's had a similar experience, and get her to share hers too. Leading to an EXTENDED emotional conversation.
Not only will she also start talking about similar stuff she experienced, but she will start to imagine what it is like to be part of your life. This will draw her to you, and she will want to hang out with you more. Because, as I mentioned earlier, girls want to have fun. And will be more attracted to you if they think you are fun to be around.
When your life is fun and interesting, you get tons of things to talk about with a girl.
Conclusion
Girls are used to guys putting them on a pedestal. Including clinging and being at their beck and call.
So instead of desperately pursuing a girl you have a crush on, engage in some fun and exciting activities, such as enjoying your hobbies. Giving her the impression that you're not the kind of guy who cling to girls, because you have other options in life other than chasing skirts.
If she sees that she doesn't have your full attention, despite her attractiveness, she will find you very attractive. And when especially you've managed to build rapport with her with your attractive personality, you become a good catch and irresistible. And this will turn the tables, and she will be the one pursuing you.

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Sunday, 28 October 2018

Can You Really Remain Facebook Friends With Your Ex?

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Breaking up used to mean breaking things off. And that meant everything, in that you weren't likely to see your ex unless you somehow ran into her again.

But what about Facebook? Can you remain friends on Facebook with an ex girlfriend? Or the more important question: if your girlfriend hasn't unfriended you after breaking up, can you somehow use Facebook to get your ex back?
Social media has made breaking up a much more complicated situation than it used to be. In the past things were simple; you'd lose each other's phone number and life would go on.
Nowadays? You've got tons of social media connections that remain behind even after the relationship is apparently over. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, group text-messages... suddenly you've got to decide which of these ties to cut, and which to keep.
Seeing an ex girlfriend can be painful, especially if you're still in love with her. Wanting her back and even trying to win her heart again can be made infinitely more complex when Facebook is telling you were she went that day, who she met up with, what she did, and what she had for breakfast.
It might also sound simple to just unfriend your ex. But in matters of the heart? Nothing's ever that simple. You'll want to hang onto these connections because they represent a portion of your past relationship. One that you loved and looked forward to every day. One that brought you closer together, even though right now it's making your heart hurt.
What Happens With Facebook After You Break Up
Before we talk about social media, it's a good idea to learn what goes on during a break up. And not just with you, the person who got dumped, but what's going on in your ex girlfriend's mind as well.
First of all, your ex didn't dump you without a reason. Sometimes a girl will tell you what that reason truly was, but most times she'll make another, simpler excuse for ending the relationship. Often she'll do this to spare your feelings (i.e. if there's another guy she's interested in, she's not going to cite that as the reason she ended things), but even more often she's just choosing the path of least resistance. She's picking whatever reason (such as the vague "it's not you, it's me") she thinks will be easiest for you to swallow, simply because she wants to get out of the situation as quickly and cleanly as possible.
Want the REAL reason she broke up with you? Learn how to make her reveal that reason. Because knowing truly why things ended is one of the first steps in getting her back.
Second, realize that after the breakup your girl is watching you closely. And she's not doing this for your benefit, she's doing it for her own.
Anyone who ever broke up with someone thinks the exact same thing: I hope I'm making the right decision. They're looking for signs that the decision was correct; that ending things was the right move, and that the person they left behind was wrong for them.
So when your ex looks back over her shoulder? She expects to see you upset. She wants to see you crushed. This isn't because she's cruel, it's because seeing you this way gives her the impression that she's better off without you. After all, if you're that hung up on her, why would she still date you? Apparently your happiness depends on her, and that's a hell of a lot of responsibility she doesn't want.
Also? You're a GUY. No guy should be crying or whining or (worse) begging for a girl to take them back. No guy should be sitting by the phone, hopelessly devastated because his girlfriend broke up with him. These things are HUGE turnoffs. Especially to a girl who has already decided to let you go.
Traits and Behaviors That Will Make Your Ex girlfriend Want You Back
A guy should be strong: mentally, emotionally, and physically too. A guy should be confident. Independent. A guy - no, her guy - should always know what to do, in every situation, so that if anything arises he can take care of her.
Girls like to be taken care of. Yes, even the independent ones. So when you can't even take care of yourself? You lose a hell of a lot of appeal.
Whatever attracted your girlfriend to you in the first place must be the same traits that will get her back. Don't lose sight of how she sees you. Don't sit there wallowing in a giant pity party you threw for yourself. If that's what you're doing right now, you'd better man up quickly because you HAVE TO STOP.
Is Your Ex Facebooking You?
You can't tell when someone views your profile on Facebook. That said, your ex girlfriend is absolutely watching you after the break up. She's checking your page to see what you're up to, and she wants to know whether or not you're happy.
This is why you don't throw up all over your own feed. No crappy song lyrics. No depressing meme graphics. In fact, the best thing you can do on Facebook after your girl breaks up with you is pretty easy:
Absolutely nothing.
In trying to figure out how to win your girlfriend back, never underestimate the importance of doing absolutely nothing at all. Silence is always golden, and it's especially shiny in the wake of an unwanted breakup.
Emotionally your ex needs to see that she was right. Mentally she wants to know that she made the right choice. You being miserable = her being right. But when you disappear from Facebook (and all social media) entirely? You quickly shake any confidence she's trying to build up. Not being able to see what you're doing is the single most disquieting thing for your ex girlfriend.
It might even make her unfriend you, purely out of frustration.
What to Do if Your Ex Unfriends You on Facebook
If your ex clicks that button to de-friend you on social media, it's because of one of two reasons:
1) You're getting to her. She's making a statement by unfriending you, and she'll be looking for a reaction.
2) She's about to start dating someone else, and she doesn't want you to see her Facebook feed.
This assumes you've been broken up for some time. Unfriending you right after the breakup is possible too, but that usually won't happen unless you had a huge fight, you betrayed her, or something ugly like that.
If your ex does happen to unfriend you, the last thing you should do is mention it to her. Saying something - even dropping a snide or sarcastic remark - is only going to make you look jilted. You never want to look jilted. In fact, you never want to appear as if you care at all when it comes to something as silly as a social media page.
Making your ex want you back is all about appearances. Instilling original desire. You can't do that if you're complaining about not being "friends" on some website, or whining that you should still be able to connect via Facebook or Instagram. As as strong, independent, confident guy, none of these things should matter to you.
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How to Make Your Wedding Photographs More Beautiful

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Wedding photographs always manage to look good, the question is how to make them better. Everyone wants to have some unique qualities in their wedding photographs which make them different from others.

Following are some of the ideas that can make your desire come to reality.
Negative Space:
Everywhere the common part of the wedding photographs are the beautiful backdrops but the unique and attractive things can also be found in the places where they are least expected. The negative areas, which could be anywhere in a house which is getting constructed. These places portrays the contrast between the ruin and the new life. These photographs don't only help you in bringing the unique element to your pictures but also make them look attractive.
Paired photos:
You can also have pictures that can be paired and reserved in a diptych form that shows the continuity of the actions and looks better than the normal posing picture of the couples. Wedding is all about the moments that are in motion and constantly changing and this way the diptych form calls out for the attention of others too. Having some different ideas and styles in your wedding photographs will make them beautiful.
Stolen moments:
The defined moments and the moments that are pre planned can be seen all the time in the wedding photography but the real fun is to be captured unknowingly. Basically the photographer has to be attentive for these shots, the moments that show the affection of the couple for each other and are being captured without the knowledge of the couple. These are the clicks which proves that stealing is not always bad after all.
The right light:
Light is one of the major component of the photographs and more precisely in this case the wedding photographs. If they used properly and wisely they can make perfect of the pictures but if not then they can spoil the whole wedding photo shoot. Proper lighting can bring reflection and bokeh look also that will make your wedding photographs stunning and the ones that will take all the praises in one go and makes them one of a kind.
Twisting the shadows:
The silhouettes look like the shadows and often create a romantic outlook of the photograph but shadows are also not the dull looking element in the photographs. Only thing that is required is to mold the shadows in an artistic way and it will make the pictures a brilliant art piece unlike the usual wedding photographs. It brings in the attractive element and will look even better if the mirror effect can be involved too.
Random clicks during live actions:
Indian weddings are full of rituals that have to be performed and in between many moments of fun and enjoyment takes place. These moments make the best of memories that can be treasured in the wedding album. These photographs have their own stories that connects to the emotions and their strings are attached to the hearts. The random pictures look one of kind and the stories and the moments make them personalised to the respective couple and their moments.
Laugh with your partner:
In the wedding photographs the chemistry between the couple is a must but the laughter shows their bond and how much they make each other happy. The laughter can not be faked and still have that genuine aspect in it, so it is better to make them laugh in real and capture that moment. The laughter shows the comfortability between the couples and makes the pictures bright with that relation of theirs.
Nature involvement:
There is one more element that will never let you fail in the process of getting amazing wedding photographs and that is the nature itself. The nature is truly the mother of humankind and will never disappoint them. The best of the photographs can be taken in the greens or around the blues, which provides the calmness and peace to the pictures and makes them stunning in their own serene way.
In between the shots:
The getting prepared part is always fun to capture. The wedding photographs should not only show the good pictures that are captured but also the in between scenes that show the confusion and chaos. No matter what the problem was once it was handled skillfully. Similarly it will always make you laugh while looking at your chaotic situations and the in between shots when you were thinking of the next photograph and got captured beautifully because the beauty is not always about the smiles.
The group pictures:
Friends are the gems that we find throughout our lives, they add more fun and love and excitement and happiness in our special days. So why not adding them in your wedding photographs and bring the best of the best. The group pictures rarely shows the fakeness of the emotions, they are mostly true to the core of it and redefine the excitement of the couple. Also good poses and postures can be brewed out of the couple's groups.
Changing the view point:
Sometimes changing the angle or the perspective of the camera brings out the good wedding shots. Aerial shots are amazingly on to go now a days and trending furiously. Every couple wants to have an aerial coverage as well of their wedding and why not? It makes the pictures look like as if the angels are showering their love and blessing from above. These photographs taken from up above adds the gorgeous element to the photographs and the want of the age.
Utilise the location fully:
Last but not the least, the location coverage. It should be taken care of that the location where the wedding is planned will be covered properly as for the backgrounds of the wedding photography. So that the level best satisfaction can be derived from the location and the backgrounds. It allows the couple to have photographs from different angles and the different backgrounds bringing the variations in the photographs.


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Getting Over an Ex - The Early Days

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GETTING OVER IT
In the aftermath of a break up it's common to need some time to get over it, but no one wants to spend more time crying than they absolutely have to. It's not as simple as 'pulling yourself together' but there are ways to speed up your recovery.

1. Think of it as a process
Getting over a relationship is a phase, with a distinct beginning and an end. You may feel as if you'll be alone and sad forever but this isn't how you have to end your days.
Relationship break ups happen all the time and affect almost everyone.
All around you there are people who have been through the same sort of thing, picked themselves up, and started over. It can be done, so don't get overwhelmed by the size of the task or the depth of your emotions.
2. Don't fight your feelings
There are stages that most people go through after a break up and the feelings that come with them are usually normal and healthy. You may not be happy with all the effects the break up has on you (who would?) but they're not a sign of weakness or failure.
You are allowed to be sad, angry and miss your ex. Acknowledging these feelings and allowing yourself time to think things through will help you move closer to the end-goal: getting over it.
Warning: If you're tempted to get revenge, don't! You may feel your ex has behaved unjustly but your responsibility now is to look after yourself. If you seek revenge you could end up in all sorts of trouble and would you really be able to respect yourself afterwards?
3. Keep your perspective
Don't forget you have friends and family who care about you. Even your colleagues are likely to sympathise if you let them know you're having a tough time. Turning up to work every day will help keep you from spending your time alone dwelling on your sadness.
Getting together with friends and family will inject some much needed fun into your life and should help you relax from the anxieties that come with break ups.
Knowing you are not alone is a great morale booster and will help you remember that romance is only a fraction of a full life.
4. Write mostly about the good stuff
Keeping a diary can help you monitor your progress, but it's most helpful if you try and write more about the good stuff. You can write about how you feel, the sleepless nights and other negative side effects too, just keep it brief. Try and write down the things that are positive, even if these are only tiny improvements.
A short entry every day will help you make progress. If you fill it in before you go to bed, then you can fall asleep with positive thoughts to counterbalance the upsetting ones.
5. Try to forgive
This is tough, because it will feel as if you're being proactively nice to someone who hurt you deeply. However, if you can manage to think of your ex and the break up without wanting to scream or throw something then you know you're making a solid recovery.
Don't rush it, or pressure yourself. No one expects you to be best friends!
You may not be able to forgive, or it may take a very long time, but trying is the important part.
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Saturday, 27 October 2018

The Perks of Being Single

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A romantic relationship is something that most people yearn to have. Some even regard finding "the right one" their life's priority. One of the greatest fears a lot of people have is to die alone; that is why some spend their lifetime searching for love, though sometimes, failing is inevitable. There are those who sacrifice everything in their lives, but they end up being
alone in the long run. And, they only realize when it's too late that their priority was wrong all along. Stop being that hopeless-romantic who always gets his/her heart broken. This time, try being on your own even just for a while. Learn how to appreciate life-alone. Maybe you'll see that being single isn't that bad at all. Discover the perks of being single by reading the list below.
1. You have more "me" time. Whenever you are in a relationship, you have to allot some time for your partner. With all the aspects in your life that you need to work for, such as your family, career, friends, and love life, there isn't enough time left for yourself. It's true that it only boils down to time management, but even you know that it's so difficult to infuse everything in your busy schedule. Sometimes, it's just better to be single, so that you can be able to care more of yourself.
2. You become richer. A relationship needs time, effort, and not to forget, money to make it work. A lot of people used to think-some even up to this moment-that women in a relationship don't have to spend since the guy usually pays for everything. Oh come on! Get over that tradition and face the present; men, the same as women, are also busting their asses just to earn a decent amount of money to afford a splendid date or to buy the luxury leather flip case that his partner wishes to have. So you see now, being single isn't bad at all, especially for your wallet.
3. No need for compromise. Face it, there are things that you love that your partner doesn't, and vice versa. Of course, one of you should compromise every now and then just to find a thing for you to both do in order to bond and spend some quality time. Take movies for example; if you are the type who prefers action-packed, explosive movies while your partner is an aficionado for romantic comedies, then most certainly, one of you would have to bear with a 2-hour motion picture not of your liking just to please either of you.
4. You become more focused. This time that you are single, all you have to essentially worry about is you and you alone. This gives you the opportunity to make your dreams come true and reach for your aspirations. Furthermore, being in a relationship can sometimes invoke feelings of anxiety, jealousy, an irrational thinking that are distractive; at least you get to think straight and focus on the things, which are of great importance.
5. You can listen to whatever music you want. We have our own preferences when it comes to music, and listening to them brings us to our comfort zone. There are times when you have to use your mobile earphones just to listen to your music, so as not to disturb your partner. With you alone and single, there's no stopping you in rocking the house and partying all night.
6. You can be a social animal. Being single will give you the opportunity to socialize with a lot of people and go out late at night without someone restricting you. Have a date with either guys or girls if you want, and you won't have to worry of someone getting jealous. The good thing about being single is that you get to be available again in the market for the business of dating anew.
7. You get to be "selfish." There's really nothing wrong in being selfish for as long as nothing or no one around you is sacrificed. If before, when you were in a relationship, you have to give up something you oh so want to buy just to get your partner a gift for your anniversary, but now, it's all about what you want. If you deem that there is a need to upgrade your mobile phone, then shop on online mobile stores and splurge; nothing or no one's stopping you. Admittedly, there are times when we put our partner's sake ahead of ours, and that's not actually surprising anymore. Being single just allows you to prioritize your own welfare.
If ever you are single now, don't fret and let that fact bring you down. There are actually a lot of reasons to enjoy being single, rather than being in a relationship that only puts you down. The best part of being single is that you are open and available to find or be found by the best among the rest.

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Friday, 26 October 2018

11 Reasons Why He Broke Up and Never Gave a Reason

Image result for 11 Reasons Why He Broke Up and Never Gave a ReasonIt's terrible if you've ever undergone a break up, especially one where he doesn't give you a proper statement why. Sometimes he has a reason but doesn't want to explain it with you because he doesn't want to cause pain, other times he does know why, but doesn't know how to tell you so he doesn't help you to understand. To try and help answer your questions, here are the most common of the reasons why guys can act distant and not give you a reason for the break up.

His values in a relationship changed
People want different things from relationships. They can go from; being friends, intimate relationships, cooperating, to being easy in terms of effort, etc. Occasionally learning about what you want from life can only be done through finding who you are and what you look for in a relationship. He may have expected he comprehended what he wished for in a girlfriend, but these can change over time.
Everything about your lives is different
Deep down inside he knew that your lives didn't match. This could indicate your career goals, destinations you wanted to live, or amount of time you got to spend with one another weren't agreeable. In his thoughts the relationship wasn't compatible with his other areas in life.
Family and religion come first
Usually his impression of you can be influenced by what friends and family pressure him into. Where he once thought the world of you, these thoughts can change from the thoughts of what others pressure him into. This can be particularly true if his family is strict and you don't share the same devotion.
Knew he was moving away
He may not have known for certain, but talk from his coworkers of a better opportunity may have come up and the hope of an advanced position elsewhere is something that has been sitting in the back of his mind. Many people will pick careers over partners.
Decided to discover who he is
Has he been quiet for extended periods of time? Blocked everyone out and can't think of anything to say? Sometimes it really isn't your fault, but him. Having a purpose in life and finding yourself is essential, and some men and women can be dragged down into a depression without it. During this depression, other things like employment and loved ones don't seem important. Pay attention to see if he acts like this about work and other departments of life; this can be a tell-tale indication that he is feeling this.
Wanted to change the direction of his life
We all have desires of where we want to be in life. At times the final push is in another part of life, such as a disappointment at his office. This can be the certain act that makes us see that life isn't where you want it to be. As a side-effect, individuals can change completely and try to turn around all of their life, tragically including the departments of relationships.
His feelings changed
Some guys just live off the passion they get from a relationship; they have no strength or responsibility to a relationship. When their passion runs dry, they can't be bothered to stick it through because they fail to have the energy to make a relationship work. He may not say anything to you because he knows you're a loving partner and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. See if he has behaved to his ex-girlfriends this way before.
Needs time alone
Men truly do need breathing space. This is an idea that is tough for women to comprehend because they are so the opposite. Men and women understand intimacy in various ways. Men need to maintain who they are while in a relationship, indicating that they need time separate for themselves occasionally. Allowing them that time allows them to breathe and permits them to be more intimate when you do spend time with each other.
He is actually hurt
Men occasionally can be very juvenile when it comes to how they understand and process their feelings. If you have hurt him in some way, he can be perplexed about his feelings and not know what to say because he doesn't actually understand what he is feeling or how to show it. Or he can handle it in a juvenile manner and not express himself because he doesn't want to appear soft or vulnerable. As a result of either, he never communicates properly.
Additional, external strain
When it comes to handling stress, men can from time to time shut down. If there is too much tension from careers, family, or additional possibilities going on in his life, he can take it out on his relationships. In an effort to focus on the part with the problem, he will shut down in his every day to day life so that he can concentrate on the issue. Small problems in relationships can be taken by him as big ones. He may not be able to give you a story for the end of the relationship as he really has no explanation in general; he just desired to deal with the other areas in his life.
Fell in love with another woman
The most horrible and obvious is that he is in love with someone else. It may not be full blown cheating; there is a chance he has fostered feelings for a co-worker or someone close.
When he gives no reason for the end of your relationship, it's very conceivable that he had a gut feeling to do so, but couldn't put his feelings into words. If he couldn't give you a reason, it often does have to do with him and not you. Do yourself a favor and stop kicking yourself, sometimes the saying is true, that it isn't you it's him.

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